Acceptance

Acceptance does not imply unconditional allowance. Indeed it does not. Acceptance embraces forgiveness. Acceptance allows perception, feelings, understanding, compassion and empathy, which makes an opening for transformation and creating new choices. It does not mean being stuck or that you cannot change a pattern. We wish to be clear about that.

It does mean, you don't have to beat yourself up. You may feel regret and remorse. Allow yourself to feel that, (without beating yourself up) and allow that to wash through you, gleaning what understandings you can from those feelings and choices. Realize that those scripts and choices do not serve you any longer. It is not how you wish to create yourself now. The release of judgment against yourself and those actions helps free you to once again recreate yourself.

This process is usually accomplished in stages. So you may visit a script or a pattern within yourself (and encounter its reflection in the world) many times before you actually manage to create a significance change. Change happens bit, by bit, by bit. Then one day there is a magic leap, and there is a new place within yourself to come from in relationship to a script.

This may seem like a slow tedious process, and appear to you as, "Oh not this again, I thought I was done with that." Or, "Oh shit, here we go again." You may be done with some of it, healed part of the script, but like a journey on a spiral you seem to come to the same place again, only this time at a different level. In other words, there is more to realize. We hope that you can take a deep breath, and see what further healing there is to be accomplished, and see what further reflections these events have to offer you.

Transformation: life, death, and rebirth. There is transformation as you seek the truth of your being. And yes to your inner thought, that which is being expressed in the moment is your truth. When the "expression of your truth in the moment" feels unpleasant and is upsetting, rather than judge it, have compassion for yourself and your expression. The pushing away and the rejection of that which feels unpleasant does not transform, change, or eliminate that which is unpleasant. You are only turning the light of your consciousness away from it (which temporarily feels good).

You will still react or respond from those inner scripts and feelings, which remain mostly subliminal or unconscious to you. However, they are still very much present in your life. When you begin to face them, you bring your consciousness, understanding, and compassion to the event and yourself. It is this process of embodying, owning, loving, and embracing, which will allow for transformation, thus creating new choices and new ways of being.

Humanity spends much time worrying, and those of you who are seeking to be of "service" and seeking to speed yourselves along your spiritual paths, wonder how you are doing. Attune to your heart for answers, and practice love for yourself, and acceptance. I mean this in a way which I hope you will learn compassion for yourself.

This not does mean if you make what to you feels like a mistake that you can or should repeat it endlessly, because there is compassion for your being and for your mistakes. Rather, have compassion and forgiveness for yourself in a way which allows you to move on, to choose again, and recreate yourself.

With the grace of the child, acknowledge that you made a mistake there. Let go of the guilt and shame, forgive yourself, and choose again knowing it is part of your learning process.

In addition, simultaneously be the adult, the master, by taking responsibility and being accountable for your choices. As the adult you can put yourself forth to make those changes which you feel will be in alignment with your highest good, your highest becoming, and that which brings you joy.

Holding both of these qualities (child and adult) simultaneously will help you to view yourself with compassion and empowerment, and by so doing, you empower yourselves to make changes

As a side note for you personally Raymond, the release of judgment against yourself allows you to hear what I might have to say for you personally, and I hope at this point you know that I am not critical or judging you. (For each of you) we are not sitting up here in judgment of you waiting to give you our advice about how you should be running your life. We see you as a multidimensional being. We see the love that you are. We see the love that you wish to bring forth and experience. We also see many of the blocks which keep that love from coming forth, and manifesting heaven upon earth. And it is that which we wish to facilitate: your healing, your divine connection, and bringing heaven to earth. With that let us say three Oms.

Italics are my words added to make the meaning of what was conveyed clearer

Edited selection from June 2003, Through and by Raymond Wolf

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Also see Moving Emotions, and Giving Voice to Our Emotions as steps in our healing process.